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Nov. 21st, 2005 11:37 pmIn a conversation with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
pentane earlier today, he mentioned that I seem to attract some odd folks, and on occasion, some of them are less than savory.
I had a bit of a revelation, but thanks to beating the unholy crap out of some dragonkin, I didn't really have time to talk about it.
It's just been in the past few months that I've started to understand a feeling that other people seem to get a lot earlier. It's not love, exactly, but more-- fulfillment, or contentment. The idea that what one has is enough, that it suffices. I don't want to date more people, and even when I meet someone sweet, or cute, or fun, I don't even want to daydream about "gee, what would it be like to go out with them." Because I realize that I don't have time to give the folks I AM sharing my life with, enough of me-- and adding more just steals time from them. It's not a sad feeling; I'm happy with who I have.
The same, I think, goes for friends, and even friendly acquaintances. There are a bunch of people in the world that one might like, to spend time with, read the writings of, hang out with. But if one chooses too many, there's not enough time to spend with them all, and some of the friends end up getting cheated.
So, rather than spend time with people who I'm sure are kind and upstanding members of their communities, but who make me grit my teeth and want to convert to whatever religion they're not, I'd rather choose to spend my leisure time with people that I really like being around.
Pent also pointed out that (paraphrased) "maybe the internet is a bad thing-- maybe, if most people don't seem to like your opinion, it's because you're actually wrong." The idea of "finding a community" is what's caught on like wildfire for the past few years, which generally means that people want to find others who think like them. Does that mean that we're less likely to notice when we wander away from the mainstream of thought? Is it a good thing or a bad thing to be without the metaphorical "horrified neighbors" when you decide to do something outrageous?
Corr
pentane earlier today, he mentioned that I seem to attract some odd folks, and on occasion, some of them are less than savory.I had a bit of a revelation, but thanks to beating the unholy crap out of some dragonkin, I didn't really have time to talk about it.
It's just been in the past few months that I've started to understand a feeling that other people seem to get a lot earlier. It's not love, exactly, but more-- fulfillment, or contentment. The idea that what one has is enough, that it suffices. I don't want to date more people, and even when I meet someone sweet, or cute, or fun, I don't even want to daydream about "gee, what would it be like to go out with them." Because I realize that I don't have time to give the folks I AM sharing my life with, enough of me-- and adding more just steals time from them. It's not a sad feeling; I'm happy with who I have.
The same, I think, goes for friends, and even friendly acquaintances. There are a bunch of people in the world that one might like, to spend time with, read the writings of, hang out with. But if one chooses too many, there's not enough time to spend with them all, and some of the friends end up getting cheated.
So, rather than spend time with people who I'm sure are kind and upstanding members of their communities, but who make me grit my teeth and want to convert to whatever religion they're not, I'd rather choose to spend my leisure time with people that I really like being around.
Pent also pointed out that (paraphrased) "maybe the internet is a bad thing-- maybe, if most people don't seem to like your opinion, it's because you're actually wrong." The idea of "finding a community" is what's caught on like wildfire for the past few years, which generally means that people want to find others who think like them. Does that mean that we're less likely to notice when we wander away from the mainstream of thought? Is it a good thing or a bad thing to be without the metaphorical "horrified neighbors" when you decide to do something outrageous?
Corr
