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So, ladies, gentlemen, and others of the single persuasion-- do there exist people who are too attractive to approach? And why?
Sometimes, yes.
To me, there are two kinds of people more attractive than me. One is the sort who works on their appearance-- they work out, are careful what kind of soap they use, choose their clothes wisely, wear makeup, and so on. To these people, physical appearance is important, to the point that they'll spend a fair amount of time every day working on it.
For these folks, I'm as likely to be attracted to them as anyone else with an interest I totally don't share-- just as much as someone who is highly interested in watching TV, or who's a serious musician, or serious about sports. We just don't have that part of our lives in common, so it's a definite mismatch in that area.
The other sort of person more attractive than me is the sort who's naturally (or unconsciously) hot. Such a person may be fit because of their job, or clear-skinned because of heredity, whatever the case may be. Often, if they're conventionally attractive, it's because they naturally fit one or the other gender role, which may make it more difficult for us to understand each other (and, without prejudice, someone who fits well into their own sex's gender role has often not spent as much time considering it as someone who doesn't, so we may even have an area of ignorance to get by). In any case, people who are stunningly attractive as adults were frequently fairly good-looking as kids, and don't have experience with being treated badly because of their looks. (Those who were not-so-hot teenagers often understand more.)
So, I wouldn't refuse to date someone hot (and I'm not calling the people I do have mad crushes on "ugly" by ANY means-- I find all of them deliciously approachable) but I might think twice about it, simply because of that hotness.
Something I wrote to someone intimidatingly hot today: Intimidatingly hot just means I stare and think "Wow, wonder what he/she looks like naked" instead of "Yum, I bet they're giggly in bed." It's more of an artistic than an erotic appreciation, mostly. (And it doesn't mean the more physical appreciation isn't there once I get to know the person.)
Sometimes, yes.
To me, there are two kinds of people more attractive than me. One is the sort who works on their appearance-- they work out, are careful what kind of soap they use, choose their clothes wisely, wear makeup, and so on. To these people, physical appearance is important, to the point that they'll spend a fair amount of time every day working on it.
For these folks, I'm as likely to be attracted to them as anyone else with an interest I totally don't share-- just as much as someone who is highly interested in watching TV, or who's a serious musician, or serious about sports. We just don't have that part of our lives in common, so it's a definite mismatch in that area.
The other sort of person more attractive than me is the sort who's naturally (or unconsciously) hot. Such a person may be fit because of their job, or clear-skinned because of heredity, whatever the case may be. Often, if they're conventionally attractive, it's because they naturally fit one or the other gender role, which may make it more difficult for us to understand each other (and, without prejudice, someone who fits well into their own sex's gender role has often not spent as much time considering it as someone who doesn't, so we may even have an area of ignorance to get by). In any case, people who are stunningly attractive as adults were frequently fairly good-looking as kids, and don't have experience with being treated badly because of their looks. (Those who were not-so-hot teenagers often understand more.)
So, I wouldn't refuse to date someone hot (and I'm not calling the people I do have mad crushes on "ugly" by ANY means-- I find all of them deliciously approachable) but I might think twice about it, simply because of that hotness.
Something I wrote to someone intimidatingly hot today: Intimidatingly hot just means I stare and think "Wow, wonder what he/she looks like naked" instead of "Yum, I bet they're giggly in bed." It's more of an artistic than an erotic appreciation, mostly. (And it doesn't mean the more physical appreciation isn't there once I get to know the person.)
