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Dear co-worker,
Jul. 4th, 2011 09:40 amMy hair is not your business. It's my business.
I do not like to hear you comment about it, even to say it looks nice, because that implies that you notice when it does not look nice. I especially do not like to hear you comment about it twice in one day.
It's not that I'm uptight-- I've had a few instances where I got a new bra with extra uplift, walked up behind a seated co-worker, they turned around, and VISIBLY reacted. "Whoa!" Yeah, they're big, if you nearly do a drive-by motorboat, it's all right to react. But I'd be upset if the exact same people said something every time they saw me, and that's kind of how I feel about my hair, too.
Come to think of it, I'm also annoyed whenever I wear a different pair of pants or a shirt to work, and get asked if I lost weight. For the record, I haven't lost weight, I'm not trying to lose weight, I eat healthy crap because it's good for me, not because I'm convinced I'm a porker and will only find love at size 10.
So, in conclusion, you're not a bad person, I like you okay, you don't have to kiss up to me with personal compliments, so could you just shut up about my hair for a while? Please?
I do not like to hear you comment about it, even to say it looks nice, because that implies that you notice when it does not look nice. I especially do not like to hear you comment about it twice in one day.
It's not that I'm uptight-- I've had a few instances where I got a new bra with extra uplift, walked up behind a seated co-worker, they turned around, and VISIBLY reacted. "Whoa!" Yeah, they're big, if you nearly do a drive-by motorboat, it's all right to react. But I'd be upset if the exact same people said something every time they saw me, and that's kind of how I feel about my hair, too.
Come to think of it, I'm also annoyed whenever I wear a different pair of pants or a shirt to work, and get asked if I lost weight. For the record, I haven't lost weight, I'm not trying to lose weight, I eat healthy crap because it's good for me, not because I'm convinced I'm a porker and will only find love at size 10.
So, in conclusion, you're not a bad person, I like you okay, you don't have to kiss up to me with personal compliments, so could you just shut up about my hair for a while? Please?
